by Christopher Greenwood
Good morning, everybody. I hope you’re doing well.
Today is about a lesson which I have observed from Mohanji. Over the past month, and more specifically, we were speaking yesterday. I asked him really how he handles all the situations that come to him so effectively, especially when dealing with people. He is handling many situations, lots of tasks, activities and personal situations too, and a large portion of these are usually in relation to other people. But he handles each situation as an individual case, with care. He dutifully weighs up what action is required next. He gives absolute clarity – always cool, calm, composed, and steady, and rarely is there anything wrong in the action too.
So when I asked him how we should deal with people, especially opinions, or the situations emerging, and when we’re not quite sure on what actually the situation is, he shared this with me, and I share it with you.
So he said, “We can’t get too carried away when we hear information from somebody. Suppose somebody comes with an issue, a situation or a problem about a person. We shouldn’t be too quick to take their view because we don’t know what position it comes from, what position they are speaking from, especially if it’s likely to impact your relationship with that person. Because once it’s damaged, that’s very hard to repair. So when someone tells you something:
- Assess the whole situation, the past, the present, the future, analyze it, how it is.
- Take time to understand it.
- Take a decision.
He said, “Otherwise, how are decisions made – mostly based on emotions, from our own inherent stored data: ‘I know this person is like this, oh, yes, that’s how that person is.’ And we’re basing it just on what we know, what we have inside and our emotions. But we don’t know what’s happened to the person since we last spoke, or in general. They could have become enlightened the other day!”
That we don’t actually know people is the point Mohanji was trying to make – every day could be different. So when we say, “I know him, I know her”, we know them generally, but we only recognize the pattern as that person called, let’s say, Christopher or somebody else is. So that’s all we’re saying – when we say, “I know them. I understand something about their pattern.” But we don’t know why or what made the pattern. There’s no way to say; we only understand something in general.
But one day, it could change. And if it changes, then is our assessment right or wrong? It will be totally wrong. So for him, Mohanji said, he can’t really make a decision that way. Don’t get too carried away when you’re looking to make a decision. Always look at the merits of what’s presented in front. Also, the mood of that person who might be sharing some information could be very bad whenever they come, so they see it negatively. And that means then that if their opinions are coloured in that way, then our opinion could be wrong as well.