{"id":37356,"date":"2022-01-16T10:41:00","date_gmt":"2022-01-16T10:41:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mohanji.org\/?p=37356"},"modified":"2024-10-19T10:47:29","modified_gmt":"2024-10-19T10:47:29","slug":"avoid-judgement-and-respect-relationships","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mohanji.org\/online-article\/avoid-judgement-and-respect-relationships\/","title":{"rendered":"Avoid Judgement and Respect Relationships"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
Few days ago , I watched a one-minute short film. I love short films; some are very imaginative and attractive. This one-minute short film made me think about various aspects of life or various situations.<\/p>
The story<\/b><\/p>
The story goes like this-one man hired a three-wheeler auto-rickshaw. You will see that in India quite a bit; three-wheelers \u2013 They are taxis on three wheels. The movie starts like this: the vehicle had stopped at a traffic light, waiting for the light to become green and a handicapped person (who can\u2019t walk well) walks towards this auto-rickshaw, asking for some money. The driver shoos him away; he just shows his hand, go away. He did not say anything, but with his hand, he gestured to move on.<\/p>
Meanwhile, the passenger felt pity for this handicapped person, took out some money from his pocket, and gave it to him. And that was done. Then the passenger tells the driver, \u201cYou must be earning at least 200 rupees a day. If you give one rupee from that to this handicapped man, you won\u2019t lose anything. And it will be helpful for this person to have a meal.\u201d<\/p>
The auto driver keeps quiet. He doesn\u2019t say anything. Then the next scene is that they have reached the destination, and the passenger gives a currency note to the driver. The driver takes it and says, \u201cSir, I don\u2019t have change. Do you have change?\u201d The passenger tells the driver, \u201cGo to the next shop and get some change and come back while I sit here.\u201d<\/p>
The auto driver does not say anything; he steps out of the auto. And at that time, we see that he is also handicapped. He has crutches. His leg is paralyzed. Suddenly the whole idea changed. Then we see that the driver of the auto is a handicapped person, similar to the person who came begging, probably even worse. He\u2019s earning his own living. But he\u2019s not uttering a word. He takes his crutches, and he walks towards the shop. There ends the story.<\/p>
Perceptions<\/b><\/p>
I noticed that this driver asks this person who came to ask for money, let\u2019s call him the beggar; with his hand, he gestured him to move on. There is a significance here; the driver also is handicapped, but he\u2019s working for his living; he is not begging. He has his life through work, or he\u2019s earning his income through working, while the other guy, the beggar he chose to take alms and beg and make his living. Now, we thought initially that this auto driver is a cruel man because he didn\u2019t give any money. But, you see, our perception changed later.<\/p>
Silence<\/b><\/p>
At that time, what did we think? \u201cOh, this is a cruel guy; he doesn\u2019t care; he is insensitive.\u201d Also, the passenger tells him that it\u2019s good to be kind or he should display kindness. Even then, the auto driver did not tell the passenger that he\u2019s also handicapped, and the passenger did not know. The auto driver did not explain anything. He kept quiet. That means he has accepted his situation; he has accepted the opinion of the passenger. And he is in his own level of understanding. He is not trying to explain anything to anybody. Here, we should notice the silence.
\nThen he\u2019s walking out later; then you see the passenger in a different colour. The passenger does not want to get out of the auto until he gets the change. And again, the auto driver does not complain. He did not tell the passenger that he is handicapped. He just got out, took his crutches, and he was walking towards the shop to get the change.<\/p>
Acceptance<\/b><\/p>
Here you see a different dimension. Again, the auto driver is silent. He has accepted the situation, and he respects the passenger. He also respects that it is his duty to give the change to the passenger, even though he\u2019s handicapped. He didn\u2019t tell the passenger: \u201cLook here, I cannot walk. Why don\u2019t you go and do it for me?\u201d He didn\u2019t say that. Instead, his acceptance level was very visible; he accepted the situation, he decided to go, and he went to the shop to get the change.
\nOur perception changes in the whole thing, in one minute, this short film really made me think, various things. It\u2019s about life.<\/p>
Judgement<\/b><\/p>
See, we judge people too fast; we decide that somebody is good or bad, without even understanding the person. We don\u2019t spend time understanding the person. And we immediately make judgments. In this one minute, many times, we made judgments. First, we thought this auto driver is cruel. Then we thought the passenger is a very kind man. Then we saw a different situation, and then our perception changed. It all happened in one minute-a very well depicted movie.<\/p>
Food for thought<\/b><\/p>
This leaves us with real food for thought.
Are we too fast in judging people?<\/p>
Choosing failure<\/b><\/p>
This is an important thing we must understand; it\u2019s not bad to lose with awareness, which means we can choose to lose a competition just to win because losing is winning. When we lose, we lose nothing, we are deliberately choosing failure, and that\u2019s our victory. Sometimes we choose to fail for the sake of making another person victorious. That\u2019s our strength. So, in every place, we don\u2019t have to be victorious. We can also choose to have failures; we can choose to lose. And we will be more regarded or rewarded by that action. A failure by choice is not a bad idea.
\nSometimes, a mother chooses to accept failure in front of a child just to have that child having the experience of victory. Here, nobody has failed, nobody lost.<\/p>
Relationships<\/b><\/p>
There are so many factors in life; if we think deeper, we understand. For the sake of ego, how many relationships have we spoiled? For the sake of expectation, how many relationships have we spoiled?
\nSo now it\u2019s time to rethink.
\nA relationship is worth it; whether it is good, bad or ugly, a relationship gives experience. It is worth it; nothing else is worth it because what you earn by losing a relationship is usually a paltry pleasure for the senses or the mind; that\u2019s transitory. It changes; it doesn\u2019t stay. Better, we give more value to each relationship that we have. Invest in it, nurture it, respect it; that\u2019s very important to remember.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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