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Whenever we go anywhere, start feeling it. Feel the place, feel the location, feel the whole programme. That is the way to remove things from your system. Number two, how deep you are able to let go, so much will go. Because we are talking about lifetimes of storage, we are talking about centuries of stored data, not just this lifetime.
So don’t underestimate or misinterpret it with thoughts like “Oh, I have done so many things in the last forty years, it will all be wasted”. It’s not so. Because whatever you have carried forward is manifesting now. Whatever you could not fulfill before, that is manifesting now. So we are addressing something very deep so maintain that seriousness.
Do things with application, and with an intent of letting go ‘Let this go out of my system. I should not be bound by these emotions from the past, these character traits, these fears and phobias.’ This will help you to become strong, empty and pure.
If that is not possible, it will be a wasted exercise. So your result (result of your practices at this retreat) will depend on how much you are able to let go. If you are not able to let go, forget even this lifetime as even the character traits, some kind of anger, some like and dislike, all this matter will stay if you are not able to let it go. And it will continue through lifetimes. That is why we carry character traits through lifetimes.
BE. HERE. NOW
‘Be’ means be yourself. Be what you are. Be the essence, not what you see physically. If they ask you who you are you may say your name or you say this is my place, these are my parents, or this is my qualification, these are all external, and some of them change also with time.
People get married then one person becomes husband another person becomes wife. When one person leaves, they become again individual. Likewise there are various combinations happening in our lives during each incarnation, at every point in time. That is not being, that is not being what you are.
That is not your essence. Your essence is your naked entity, your basic entity which is totally, completely detached from the whole exercise, whole drama, that is what you are. So ‘beingness’ is being one with that entity which is permanent. Understand that clearly. Being one with the entity which is permanent in your system.
Not your changing emotions, not you changing mindset, character or anything which is changing which is not you. This is part of the doing. So BE means ‘Be that which is permanent’. This is your essence. Be one with the essence. Be one with the permanence. For understanding that, to be you need to feel. If you want to understand what beingness is, or how to be, you need to feel.
Again, ‘feeling’ is introversion. You should introspect. To feel, you need to feel within. You need to be sensitive. You can feel an external thing, but again, the feeling is happening inside you.
You may feel the wind, but how do you know the wind? The translation of that feeling happens inside you. So feel everything. Feel life. It’s a huge difference. Today I wrote ‘Romance life, it’s worth it’.
Why did I say that? If you romance another person, if he goes away or leaves you, you will become sad. But if you romance life, your whole life will be full of romance. True romance is bliss. It is an unselfish existence. This is the point. So for that you need to feel. Feeling is very important. Be sensitive. So, this is ‘BE’. And silence is a major aspect of beingness. Perfect silence is perfect beingness. Automatically you will become silent.
Because when you start feeling, you may even close your eyes, you will feel and you will be silent. Silence is part of the process. Silence is a spontaneous expression when you start feeling. The more you feel, the more silent you become. Not physical silence – silence, because you don’t have any physical expression. Silence because you are not pushed into talking. That is the beauty of silence.
That is real silence. Otherwise if you are just silent for the sake of silence of the mouth, it is probably good for other people, but it doesn’t make much difference in your psyche. If you keep quiet other people are happy, but it may not change anything within you. Things should change within you. If things change within you, then you need to be silent within, empty within.
This is all part of ‘BE’. This is very important to remember, be – here – now. These three words are the core of this process. And it needs 100% your total application to make difference in your life, and we can make it happen. This is in your control. This you can be. Otherwise you are always pushing ahead. We are sitting here but we are thinking about the future.
We want to be something else. You cannot be something or somebody else. All other people are already taken. You can only be you, isn’t it? Now you have to take another birth to be somebody else. Again, the ingredients are all the same. It’s like global brands that change the box form time to time to bring freshness in the market or in the consumer’s mind.
Like that, you are changing your life. Your change starts with yourself. You are bringing a new life for freshness, but ingredient is the same! Otherwise you wouldn’t buy, right? This is the process.
So, BE is very important, then HERE. ‘Here’ means there is a location for your expression. You need to have a location, you need to have a space, and that space is important. A thing can happen only at a particular place at a particular time. It cannot happen a day before or after, as per the flow of time and because the time keeps flowing.
While here, if your mind is elsewhere, it’s a useless exercise. When you are here, at this location, be here in this place 100%. Not 99%. it’s not good enough. Be here 100%. This location, this place, this is your only reality right now. There is other location outside this place, but this is not your reality. It’s somebody else’s reality. Maybe somebody else is there. But as far as you are concerned, this is your only reality. So be here, this location, this space.
Then the time, NOW. What is now? This moment. This moment is your only reality. Next moment we have not seen, we do not know. Next hour we do not know. Next day we do not know. We are anticipating, yesterday was like this, so tomorrow might be like this. But the whole, like if there is more rain, it can change the things. It is as simple as that.
The factors which are not in our control we are trying to predict and we are trying to control. It gives pain. So we have to go with the flow. We have to go with the time. Time is very important. Now is important, this time is your real time. Use it well. And how do you use it well? When you are objective. When you are clear.
When you have clarity, when you have objectivity, you are using the time well. If you are subjective, if you do not have clarity, the life will be murky. And how do you gain clarity? When you detach. When you see from outside, you have a clear picture. When you are inside, you do not know what is happening. This is the difference between clarity and lack of clarity.
Involvement removes clarity sometimes. But application is not involvement. If you are deeply involved in something with full concentration, when you are in now, this is ok. But involving emotionally into something removes the clarity. When the clarity is removed, life is purposeless. Thus goes life. Most of the people who work or live do not have clear purpose.
Why? Because they live a routine life. They live through the life. So be – here – now. ‘Be’ means this is you – be in this space, in this time. Use this time to introspect, to ask yourself ‘Is this me? I am anxiety. Is this anxiety me? I’m having fears. Are these fears me or have I acquired them?’ You are having jealousy, hatred, or suspicion, doubt, are all these me? Or mine? Mine is also not a good idea. The more you own, the heavier you become. So ‘is this me or is this mine?’
If you ask this question clearly, you will understand that all these happenings around you are either acquired from outside or you have created them out of illusion or out of non-understanding. You created a mountain through non-understanding and also through lack of clarity. Many, many incident happened because we respond or react emotionally, impulsively. But the moment we think and respond, the problem will not be there.
Speculation is the reason for many problems. If we don’t know about something, we speculate. E.g. I did not get a call from X. I was expecting a call, she didn’t call me. Then what would I feel? Something is not right. Then again I start imagining. If the call didn’t come the next day as well, it becomes more. Sometimes my ego will not permit a call back to check if everything is in order.
So the third day the call doesn’t happen, then you start creating gossips. And then from the mind distance happens. This is how we are creating life. This is also how we are creating destiny. The more emotions we create, the more intense the destiny becomes. The more lives we will take. But if you allow the life to flow, without many emotions… This is very simple. Those who do not use emotions casually are safe.
Transcribed by Biljana Vozarevic