Overcome Anxiety, Anger, Alienation, Hurt, Tiredness, Disillusion

Dear All,
Here is the compilation of various questions  and Mohanji’s answers on Bless The World Yahoo group. Guided by higher consciousness,  Shahid Khatai was prompted to collect them all so that you also enjoy and benefit from these eternal truths that Mohanji tirelessly conveys through his teachings.
Love, BTW Team

Topics: What alienates, what connects to the source; state of confusion in crisis; how to tackle anxiety; being cheated or hurt; “so-called-control” of one’s life; why masters distract disciples or disillusion them; constant tiredness; dealing with anger

Q: What alienates me from you? Sometimes I feel connected. Sometimes I feel detached from you.

A: Doubts. Mind poses doubts which alienates people. Connection is the same at all times. Mind is not the same. Emotions are not the same at all times either. This is the difference that you are experiencing. Mind plays various games. It creates doubts, confusions, questions, faithlessness – and all these create alienation. Ego also alienates. Highly egoistic people are usually loners. Humble and kind people will never be alone. Kindness attracts. Ego alienates. So, in order to stay connected, you must go beyond your mind and catch the energy plane. There, you and I are one. Same energy. Same soul.

Q: So many things are bothering me. I am confused as to what I should do, in the current crisis.

A: You cannot change certain situations of life. Accept it. You cannot go to the past and rectify or change something that you had done earlier. Accept it. You cannot go to the future and do something there too. Accept it. All you have is NOW. The present time. You have this time in hand, along with the present facilities, current knowledge, infrastructure, time and space. Do your best NOW. When tomorrow happens, we will tackle it then. There is no benefit in harbouring anxieties, fears and regrets. These are all waste materials that you have been carrying on your shoulders, since generations. At least, in this life, you can consciously discard this burden. Can’t you? Regarding the crisis, you never created it. So, do not take ownership. The crisis has taken place and you are dragged into it. This means it was part of your karmic agenda to go through it. Go through it, in a non-attached way. This will not destroy you. This is just another phase. Even this will pass away.

Q: How can we tackle anxiety?

A: Through Understanding. Through understanding of the truth or reality. Higher awareness is the only way. When we look from below, the mountain is unconquerable. For a mountain climber, that is only one of the challenges that he has encountered in the course of his life. He will conquer that too. It is the way you look at it. Anxiety happens due to the fear of unknown, or the unknown fears, especially about the future. Since the fear exists NOW, the future essentially becomes clouded. In other words, if we do not use our NOW wisely, the future will be murky. Understand that nothing belongs to us. Just look around. Your house, your car, the clothes that you wear, the transitory money in your hand, your own relatives, even your own body….. you own nothing. Everything came to you, to give you experiences and everything will leave you at some point of time or the other. Your body will be trashed too, after death. So, what is there to hold on to? Your soul. Only your soul, which is the only permanent entity in this impermanent world. So, all the wars, fight for possessions and power are all crap and useless. All are unnecessary. All you need is love. Just love. All anxieties will go. Whether you are anxious or not, the future will happen and you have to face your future. There is no escape. So, why don’t we face it bravely? Head on? That’s the way to live the life – like a KING.
Those who commit suicide are cowards. They have no future anyway. By ending this life, they might feel they escaped problems. Bigger karmic problems await them in the next life.

Q: I have had situations where those whom I trusted and loved, cheated me. I cannot forget this hurt. Please help me. (This is a long message, I am cutting it short to the point)

A: There are no co-incidences in life. If a certain situation happens to you, sub-consciously, you have attracted that situation to you. Situations happen in life. Allow it to happen. Do not attach yourself to the emotions attached to a situation. Emotion plus situation creates a file in your sub-conscious. Emotion is the glue that sticks the file of each situation to your sub-conscious. This stays in your hard drive and creates a reality again, in the future. So, understand that such an incident has taken place, understand that it was supposed to happen and it was no fault of yours, understand that there is no point in crying over spilled milk and spoil your tomorrows. Buy another bottle f milk and keep moving. Be objective. An incident took place. Fine. It’s over. Now, take the message out of the incident and keep it in your reference file. Discard the incident as dead and gone. Move on with better clarity and understanding. Past is past. Present is the only reality. Future is yet to be. Never stay in the past. Never stay with silly emotions. If someone cheated you with money, who knows, you may have owed him that money in another life and could never pay it in time. Or, understand money is transitory and it never stays in one place for long. It moves and you are only a temporary custodian. Another aspect of karma is that you can never choose not to pay a debt. So, pay and finish your payable.
You must forget the bad experience through higher understanding and acceptance. If you keep energizing your negative past, it is likely that it will happen again, one way or the other. This is because, you are reinforcing that reality through constant energizing. Lastly, you must also pardon all those who harmed you, as they came into your life to strengthen you, give you those experiences. One way or the other, all these gave you knowledge and further maturity.
Do not keep lot of expectations in relationship with others. The general society works on conditional love while saint and the almighty works on unconditional love. People will love you, provided you conform to their expectations. If you choose to be different or independent, they may not love you. Leave this room in all your relationships, so that, you will not be too depressed with people’s behaviours towards you. Take every smile and every kindness as gift from God and reciprocate appropriately. If it does not happen tomorrow, you must remain the same. This quality must essentially be cultivated. Avoid emotions from spoiling your day and also pulling you down. Understand that each person expresses himself in this world according to his character and conditioning. It may not be the same as ours. Allow, in your mind, room for that variety to exist. So, we will not be “hurt” with any kind of behaviour. If someone decides to walk naked in the street, we will not essentially do it. He expresses his culture, we will express ours. Bear this in mind.
God needs nothing from you. So, do not add stress to yourself on God’s sake. It is up to you to connect with God, for your own sake. God is unconditional. Everything belongs to Him. What more can you give Him?
So, be happy. Pardon all. Lead a pious life. Love all and respect all. You will be fine. God Bless All

Q: I have always been in control of my life. I always used to think well and take decisions. Off late, I seem to be losing confidence in myself. I believe the rapidly increasing age and market situations are the reason for it. Can you throw some light on this?

A: Be careful when you say that you have been in conscious control of your life. What factor of your existence have you actually controlled? Your heart beat? Respiration? Circulation? Digestion? Muscular movements? Thoughts? Pulse? Sleep? Situations? What have we controlled till now? We do not know what we will think the next moment until the thought come to pass. We know only on past tense basis. All the vital functions of our body are under the control of our sub-conscious mind. Thank God!!! We are saved from some fatal “forgetfulness”. Our conscious mind is not involved in any of the major functions of our body. Conscious mind recognizes a thought after it takes place. It does not have control on thoughts.
If we think that we are taking lots of decisions. Then again, look at its depth. We have no control on the climate, weather. We have no control on external situations. (And to a great extent our internal situations too, such as emotions and mood fluctuations, which often depend on other people’s behaviour too). So, at a given space, at a given time, with the given intellect, with the given status of mind and body, we either think, or talk or do certain things. Yet, we consider ourselves as ‘The doer”. This ownership over things or situations which are not at all ours, is the fundamental cause of many miseries in life.
This means, we have no responsibilities? Yes. We have limited responsibilities or perhaps, we have ‘grand’ responsibilities. One should understand who we actually are, while we are alive. In order to understand who we are, we go through many situations and trials and errors. Often, in most cases, only at the time of death, one understands who we actually are, and we are essentially the soul.  The next responsibility is to express our true nature. Our true nature is that of universal love with perfect awareness that the whole universe is within us and we are part of the whole universe. Third is to help others recognize the true nature of themselves. People have “herd instinct”. If one walks, everyone follows, not even considering if one’s destination suits the others. If you can responsibly detach another person to take strides on their own, and help live with awareness, your life is worth it.
Otherwise, at some point of time, we will lose this “so-called-control” and we will start feeling that there is something ‘wrong’ with us. The “wrong” is not with us. It is with our understanding. So, please understand that this feeling of control that you had entertained was indeed not existing. Secondly, the situations or circumstances made you feel that it did and you lived in that make-believe world for so long that you lost in touch with the ‘real’ reality. That’s all. Now, you are in the right track. You have recognized that there is something fundamentally wrong. This is the time for introspection. Now, you will understand that you had controlled nothing and you will develop gratitude for existence itself. You will see the commonality amongst all beings. All that moves on earth have the same soul running their body. You will recognize that soul inside all shapes. You will evolve higher.

Q: Why do masters distract students or disillusion them?

A: A true master knows exactly what the student needs. He will distract the student to test his eligibility to receive the supposed knowledge. Also, he will check the maturity of every disciple to receive that knowledge. Many students come with their cups full with sundry knowledge. The master shakes them so much that the cups will become somewhat empty. Some cannot handle these shaking and they leave. Some stay on and evolve higher. Masters have also displayed strange behaviours which often distracted disciples. Some act like mad men. Some express seeming vices such as intoxicants, and the disciple’s expectation gets affected. These are done to eliminate conditionings. We are born and brought up with lots of conditionings. These are affecting our thought processes and alienating ourselves from our own true nature.
Shirdi Sai was initially considered as mad, until many people started getting benefitted from His grace.
Our conditioned mind often cannot understand a true master. Others also influence our thoughts. Negative thoughts breed fast and positive take time. If one of your friends, or even your own husband or wife did not like a particular Guru, they may distract you and you will eventually surrender. This is almost always the case. We compromise our own truth to others’ words and suffer eventually. A will of steel is essential here. First of all, the path should be clear. The track should be defined, such as Path of Devotion, Knowledge or Action. Then, once you find your master, once your internal churning has been completed about his stature, stick. Do not be doubting Thomases always. This is anti-evolution. It is true that along the path, you may reach higher masters. This is like after graduation, you are stepping into post-graduation. A new master welcomes you there. This is quite fine. This is evolution. There is absolute clarity here. This is a travel with gratitude for the path, the knowledge and evolution so far. This is how it should be. As I mentioned earlier, true masters are road signs. They never bind the traveller to themselves. True masters always liberate you. Guaranteed.

Q: Dear Mohanji, I always feel tired. I thought it is due to some medical issues. I did a thorough check up and found my physical conditions satisfactory. Still, I am feeling some kind of fatigue. Ever since I have been introduced to you, I have been observing you. You seem to have tremendous amount of energy to do many different things every day. Can you share the secret? What do you think is the reason for my constant fatigue?

A: If you are physically fit, you should be vigilant that your mind does not make your body sick. Mind is the culprit here. Fatigue happens due to two reasons. One is the oscillation of your mind between your past and the future, along with the attached fears and anxieties. This consumes a lot of energy. The energy loss gives you lethargy. You must counter it with action. Beat the fatigue with physical action. Play tennis or work yourself out and get tired. You will be surprised, that after a thorough workout, you will still be energetic.
The second reason is ennui. This means tiredness because of repetition. If you repeat anything for a very long period, especially a job, your mind will crave for a change. You will feel sick and tired of the sameness. This results in mental fatigue. You must counter it with a good hobby. You must develop a hobby which is close to your heart. That will be your active diversion. This will help you get out of ennui.
Always be aware of how much time you are spending only for yourself or your immediate family. Spend some time for the society and fellow beings too. You will always be energetic.
All of us have the same level of energy. I do not have anything special. My secret is, I have no fear or anxiety. I do not live for myself either. My requirements are very little. I do not have much expectations either. I do not even have a TV at home these days.
So, the energy that runs through my system is not wasted. This gives rhythm and continuity. Then, of course, all of you who are “observing” me, add to my purpose of existence.

Q: I cannot control my anger. Off late, I am losing my friends because of this. My family is also suffering. Can you help me?

A: Travel to the root cause for your anger. Mostly it is related to expectations. When your expectations about others are not met by the concerned people, you become upset. Why do you keep those expectations at all? Understand that other people are not here to serve you. They are here to exhaust their own karma. So, they will serve you only if it suits their karma. So, you do whatever possible to the best of your ability. When you delegate, always leave room for incomplete action and counter it with preventive action before the catastrophe takes place. Do not blame others and spoil relationships. Always take others’ assistance as bonus. This includes your family, wife, children and parents. Understand that all are karmic beings. They will only act out their karma. So, if you become too difficult, they will discard you. (If they can help it.Or they will suffer you, because they have no choice!!!) If you tackle expectation effectively, you can see your anger vanishing. It needs constant attention and consistent action till it becomes your habit.
Uncertainty about future and related anxiety also makes a man impatient. During such occasions, tell yourself “even this situation will pass away. Nothing stays for ever. I must remain calm”.
Ego is another cause. “How dare you do it to me?” “Who do you think I am” etc – such questions are all stemmed out of ego. The best way to tackle your ego is to do social service. Serve the poor and needy. This is equal to serving God. We only tend to look at those people who are higher than us or more materially successful than us. This creates anxieties and complexes within us. We must also look at those who are not as privileged as we are. This will give you equilibrium. Usually, very rich people are not those who help a lot of fellow beings. It is the so called “non-entities” that do a lot. So, understand it’s not the money that one spends. It’s the love and care that one expresses. You will win back all your friends and will have more friends in this world. Your family also will respect you because of your higher stature and kindness. Keep doing service for the world. Your life will improve considerably.
A young man saved a young lamb which was going to be slaughtered for meat. He is a student. He had many problems during his change over to adolescence and used to communicate with me. One day, while walking to his classes, he saw the cute lamb, tied to the post of a slaughter house. The lamb looked sad and lonely. He saw fear in its eyes. Even though there was food in front of him, it was not eating anything. It knew that in a few minutes, it will be killed. Suddenly, deep compassion woke up inside him. He met the slaughter house owner and requested him to sell the lamb to him. The owner refused at first saying that there is lot of demand for lamb meat, yet later, agreed for a rather high amount. The young man had no money. He went around, borrowed money from his friends and classmates, and finally bought the small lamb. He took it home, fed it, sheltered it and started bringing it up. This changed his life for ever. He writes “Mohanji, Suddenly, I have a definite purpose for my existence now. I know that many beings who are lonely and sad need me. I am better off than all of them. I will never eat meat ever again. Thank you, for your guidance and wisdom. Thank you for showing me the path. May you live long and guide thousands more like me. Whenever you need me, please call me and I will leave everything and join you.”
I quoted this to make you understand how your life can change, through positive actions. Does anyone think even for a moment before eating lamb meat or any meat for that matter that a poor and sad animal has died to give you its meat? If you cannot stop it, at least have gratitude. Pray for the poor creature who has been killed for your sake.
May God guide you to higher awareness.